Some of the most hilarious and horrifying news you can ever receive is the news that two of your mutual friends are dating. Of course, where it falls on the Hilarity/Horror scale will depend on their prior dating history (Is he a douche bag?), their intentions (Does she have issues with commitment?), and whether or not you saw it coming (Wait, you're dating who? WTF, mate!)
As I sit at my work computer, sipping filtered water through a straw (I love straws) and pretending to Bates-label a mountain of papers, I am wondering:
Why is this such a big deal?
Because it is. It’s a big deal when to of your friends date. Or hook up. Or whatever. When two of your mutual friends date, it puts you in a weird place. On the one hand, it’s not your business – you friends (at least mine) are adults, and are free to live their lives in the manner that pleases them.
On the other hand, it’s totally your business. Because you’re not friends with just one, you’re friend with both, which totally changes the “friend role” you usually play when one of your friends are dating.
On a much more personally level, it’s weird for me when my friends date...period. I feel like a noose is slowly closing around my neck. The dating/marriage/babies/whatever-the-heck-comes-after phase of life is closing in. Big time.
What if it skips me entirely?
I can’t escape the fact that I’m in my mid-twenties, and seem to be incapable or unwilling to date. So as my friends veer off two by two, I kind of wonder what I will if I’m the only man left standing.
Why is life so complicated?
3 quirky quips:
It's not the end of the world when two friends start dating, as messy as it can get if it doesn't work out well on the other end. I'm surviving the B/A thing just fine, and that's even worse since I introduced them!
Also, I'm officially on the flip side of 25, plenty of my friends are getting married this spring/summer, and it's been years since I've been in a relationship. You're doing just fine. . .
i've been in that situation on both sides, and its uncomfortable either way. But look at it this way, they probably are dating out of convenience and most likely it will end messy. Be glad that you have no interest in anyone whom your close to already, the best relationships come from out of the blue. So dont worry, just live your life and have patience and trust that the one will come when you aren't even looking.
By the way, thnks for using my photo, it fits perfectly with your entry :)
@Laura - You're so good at keeping things in perspective. That is a talent I am striving to develop...
@Egasbarino - I'm going with limited involvement in this situation. I hate having to chose sides!
Also, the photo is awesome! I'm glad you don't mind me using it. :)
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